The older I get, it truly bothers me that I never asked any of my grandparents to write their life memories down for me or that I didn’t ask them questions “interview style” and jot them down while they talked. I was younger, though, when my maternal grandparents passed and quite frankly, I wasn’t thinking about how important their life experiences would be to me and how much I would crave to read about their past memories now.
My paternal grandmother recently passed in May of this year after a long battle with Alzheimer’s disease and the same regrets hold true with her. Even though she lived her later years in California and I didn’t see her as much, I regret not asking her more questions during her summer visits here or through letters and phone calls.
Since I had been having these regrets for a while now, I decided to purchase a little memory book for my dad as part his birthday gift last month. Now, keep in mind that my dad is not a writer, but he certainly has a way with words and I knew that he would have lots to say when he found the time to sit and write a little. The neat part is that you can purchase these books with a question on each page to help nudge your memory and even though I am not yet in my retirement years, I bought one for myself to start, as well.
If you aren’t comfortable writing out your memories, consider making a video where you talk about your past and what regrets you may have or what decisions you are proud of and would never change. Don’t be afraid to speak the truth or feel that what you are saying is silly. Trust me, your family would never think that as they read your life story.
Think about it the next time you are missing a loved one who has passed. How much would you give to sit down and read their words right now as if they were speaking directly to you?