I know how contradictory this is, but at least I am being honest. The reason that I know I probably won’t keep my resolutions this year is because they are basically the same ones that I commit to every year and guess what? I don’t keep them!
Is it because I am lazy? No. Is it because I do not have enough willpower? Probably. Is it because I just want peace and quiet in my life and will do whatever it takes to make everyone happy? Absolutely!
Let’s face it…when you are married or have children, your resolutions are almost always going to affect your family—in one way or another. This is why it is so hard for me to keep mine. Even if there are things that I would like to change in my life (trust me…there are tons), it always comes back to how my family will react and if my resolves will unwillingly fall unto them.
I think the best way to explain this is to share what my “usual” resolutions are and why they usually fly right out the window:
Not getting so stressed over the little things — Sounds easy enough, right? Not if you lived in my house! I have tried so hard (and think that I actually do a pretty good job) at not getting mad or upset over the stupid things that happen, but when your kids are constantly doing these stupid things over and over again, you eventually lose your cool and flip out!
Write more — I always resolve to write a lot more than I did the previous year, but that means more time on the laptop. If I were to stick to this goal, the kids would only be able to speak to me through email and some people might consider that bad parenting.
Exercise — Who am I kidding? That doesn’t affect anyone else…I just hate it!
Quit saying “yes” to everyone — This is a big one for a lot of us and every year, I tell myself that ‘this’ is the year that I learn to say, “No.” The problem is that if I say “no” and never help out, who are my children’s teachers going to have helping them when they really need the extra hands during special events? Who is going to help with fundraisers for the PTA? Who is going to help the dedicated staff at our church with all of the wonderful activities they do for the kids? Who is going to write the articles or blog posts that are asked of me for someone else’s magazines or websites?
This is definitely not implying that I am the only one who does these things because there are a lot of wonderful parents and community members who volunteer way more than I do. I am just trying to show you how another resolution always comes back to bite me because if I say “no” and everyone else does, too, what will happen? I don’t ever want to find out, so I keep saying, “Yes.”
Bake more — When Mark and I first got married and I dreamed about becoming a mother, I always envisioned having a perfectly clean and beautiful home, cooking huge suppers every night and having homemade cookies waiting for after-school snacks…but, then I had kids! It’s not that I can’t bake; it’s that I don’t have the time. Besides, if I start over-exerting myself and baking non-stop, we would all be super unhealthy and that leads to even more resolutions that I will have to break for next year!
How about you? What resolutions do you make year after year that you can’t seem to ever keep?!