Today, I want to address a question that readers email me a lot about and something that I was often asked during therapy sessions and this is, “How can I Stop Worrying so Much About What Other People Think?” Whether you are 8 or 88, this is a common issue that we all face at one time or another. We are born with a natural desire to be liked and accepted, but there are right and wrong ways of doing so.
Obviously, caring about other people’s feelings means that you are a respectful person and value their opinion, but it doesn’t mean that you have to agree with their viewpoint and base your self-worth on what they think of you or how you choose to live your life.
There are always going to be people in your life whose days are filled with anger and hate and trying to please them is a waste of your time and energy. It also isn’t going to change the type of person they are. Don’t let their negativity consume you and rob you of enjoying your life because I can assure you that it’s not ruining theirs.
Keep in mind that you are never going to be liked by everyone. Even those who genuinely love and value you are not always going to agree with everything you do or say and that is okay. Just remember that you are the only judge of your happiness, so stop worrying about what others think and start living the positive life you deserve!
Unfortunately, the fact that I can make is that people tend to listen more talkers by failing to question the motives themselves.
That is why we must not linger unduly the attention of others, as to want to please everyone, we forget to please yourself and socially assertive.
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I wanted to thank you for your article that I hope will help me to accept myself and live without anxiety.
In fact, I realize that I attach too much importance to be present and to assert myself in a group of people which ultimately turns into anything about me and denigrate anyone free of charge, without any error or due to my taste.
This is a group with which I work, so I live with most of my time and I do not know why I strive to be recognized by the people thereof.
There is little, I decided to steer me away to be able to live and breathe differently, because I do feel happier and my place.
I do not know if the leak is a means of professional development, because I am very happy in my personal life outside work. I will keep you informed of progress, because in three weeks I change my life.
So yes! Of course! The gaze of the other is binding, even scary. But also essential to build us about that time for a long stage of our lives.
What would become of us without regard to the other one year, six, twelve?
Much depends on what is projected in …
I realize that I attach too much importance to what people think of me.
The problem is that I can not do otherwise.
I constantly fear the gaze of others, ridicule, unkind, I am touched by the slightest thing and it is very hard.
Thank you for this article motivating !
Probably healing begins when we begin to rebuild a pretty picture of ourselves in our own eyes 🙂
This is certainly a long way and not always easy, however, to, slowly, to observe its own qualities and strengthen a track can be;)